Hello everyone, you might be asking yourself if you
are at the right blog, well you are. Google decided to shut my blog down
because they thought it was “spam” and it will take a week or so for them to
fix it. So ill be using this blog for now. Many of you might recognize it from
when I moved to NY to nanny, I just haven’t written on it for a long time.
Anyway, this exercise gave us a list of questions
that were being asked and we had to pick a few and respond to them. The last
question is a wrap up about the response in general and brings all ideas to a
conclusion. I really enjoyed this exercise because I got to defend my topic and
show how passionate I can become with it. I think that I will be able to show
this passion a lot better through my research paper better than I would have.
Also I believe I would not have chosen to answer the “what should we do about
it?” Question in my paper; which I believe is very important. If you propose an
idea on a topic you have to tell you audience what a good way to deal with it
or overcome it would be, but I have always just assumed they would figure that
part out. If I give them an idea about what we could do about the situation, it
could spark their brains and we could actually get something accomplished.
How
do most people see this? How do you see it differently?
Most people would see divorce as just two married
people who no longer want to be together and it’s just a “big break-up” with
legal issues involved. Divorce now is normally always out of anger and there is
hate involved and when all the papers are signed, there’s a reason to party. It
is something that is very common in today’s society. I see divorce as a very
sad and hard thing to do in one’s life. It does not only affect the married
couple, it affects the world around them and especially their children. I do
not think married couples should get into divorce because it is a covenant
between the two people. The only way divorce is acceptable is when one of the
two people break the covenant for example, adultery. The children involved
develop mental and physical problems if the parents do not express concern and
get the help the child needs watching his parents split apart.
Can
you give me an example?
To give you an example, let’s use the Smith family.
Mr. Smith decides to propose to Mrs. Smith and they get married, have a kid,
etc. Mrs. Smith is unhappy with the way Mr. Smith does the laundry and he lost
his job, he is no longer bringing in any money. Mrs. Smith just can’t
understand why he can’t do the laundry her way and now that he is not bringing
in any money, she no longer wants to be with Mr. Smith. They already had a
legal document written up in case they would get into a divorce. Around the
house they don’t fight because they don’t think it would be healthy for their
kid to see and they decide that the child will spend every other week with each
parent. Their child is 12 years old and
very vulnerable to his parent’s actions. His parents do not think he needs counseling
and so they decided to talk to him but since he is scared to tell his parents
how he really feels; the child suffers from depression and separation anxiety.
The child thinks that the divorce is his fault because he never saw his parents
fight and no one would give him an explanation. He does not know how to deal
with tough situations and he does not know how to cope with difficult
situations. The doctor noticed his blood pressure was high for such a young
age. He asked the mother if there were any changes to his daily life. Mrs.
Smith explains everything to the doctor and he suggests counseling and someone
other than the parent to talk to, someone who is not involved in the divorce.
It is also a proven fact that if the parents are
fighting in a home and not showing the love of a married couple, the children
can show the same effects as children with divorced parents.
What
do you think we would do about it?
I believe that we should make divorce a bigger issue
within society than it really is. Sometimes parents do not mean to neglect
their children but do not know any better because they do not understand how
divorce can really affect their child. Also I believe we should provide free
classes married couples to help their marriage survive, for their benefit but
mainly the children’s benefit. We should
offer free counseling to kids, as well. So many times people need professional
help but are unable to obtain it because it cost too much money.
Based
on everything you’ve learned so far, what’s your point?
My point is
that children are becoming mentality and physically ill to divorce, which is
something out of their control. Adults and married couples need to be more
aware of the effects of divorce and how it can become a large problem, for a
child, if not dealt with properly. Children have no control over divorce but
yet they must deal with the consequences of divorce, so getting them the help
they need is essential.
